According to Dr. Phillip McGraw (Dr. Phil for short), if our number one need is acceptance, then it follows that our deepest fear is rejection (Source: Oprah.com). Whether it’s in finding your true significant other, pursuing your career, choosing friends or even applying for a job, all of us at some point in time in our lives have experienced rejection. And it’s never a good feeling.
However, we should not allow rejection to take away happiness, or the pursuit of happiness, from our lives. Rejection is an inevitable part of being human, and accepting each and every rejection that comes our way helps in reminding us what really matters in our respective lives. Today, we help you through the emotions and provide five tips on how to deal with rejection.
Tips On How To Handle Rejection
1. ACCEPT THE REJECTION EARLY – The earlier you accept the rejection and attempt to move on from it, the easier a time you’re going to have. It will also mean that you won’t let rejections in the future affect you from walking your path in life. Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me again, shame on me.
2. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EMOTIONS – Instead of suppressing, ignoring or denying your pain, acknowledge your emotions, whether they be embarrassment, sadness, disappointment or discouragement. Attempting to minimize the pain by convincing yourself – or someone else – that “it was nothing” or “it’s not a big deal” will only prolong your pain. The best way to deal with uncomfortable emotions is to face them head-on. Like a band aid, it’s sometimes better to rip if off quickly than go through the slow excruciating pain.
3. LOOKING FORWARD – Rather than blaming and criticizing yourself, treat yourself with compassion. You’re only human after all. If you catch yourself analyzing your past or yourself, respond to this internal negative self-talk with a kinder, more affirming message of moving forward from your pain. A positive assertion is always good for the soul. Know your self-worth, you are valuable, and appreciate it.
4. LEARN FROM REJECTION – Mentally strong people ask themselves, “What did I gain from this?” so they can learn from rejection. Rather than simply tolerate the pain, they turn it into an opportunity for self-growth. With each rejection, they grow stronger and become better. Whether you learn about areas in your life that need improvement, or you simply recognize that being turned down isn’t awful as you imagined, rejection can be a good teacher. Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom. I was once told that growth is painful, but rewarding. It was only when I went through the process many times in my life did I understand and cherish the meaning of those words.
5. DO SOMETHING FUN – Play tennis, take a class at a local gym, write a short story, go out dancing, spend the weekend with your friends and family. You cannot let rejection stop your life abruptly, because like it or not, you will experience lots of instances of rejection in your life (as everyone does). By moving on with your life and doing other things, you aren’t letting rejection ruin your life. Do something new in your life and you might just surprise yourself. Famous singer Adele, before she made it in the top music charts, wrote and sang her heart out after a heartbreaking end to her romantic relationship at the time (Source: Daily Mail UK) . I think we can all agree she came out even stronger at the end of the day.
I hope our tips on handling rejection will help you or someone you care about comprehend how to process and deal with it. Feel free to let us know if you find these tips useful, and other healthy ways in how you deal with rejection in your life. And make sure share this article so even more people can benefit from it as well as subscribe to our Peace of Mind Facebook page for the latest updates on our blog and video contributions.